Looks like we have either heard the word or gone through it or going through it or have forgotten about it or enjoying them.
Don’t worry this blog is not one of those “Aunt Agony” types where u publish ur issues and me being the so-called “Aunty“ helps you out . This blog is about what you feel truly about relationships.
I can help you out with one thing though and that is ..Please please don’t get involved in a relationship! Now u will find it funny when I say that …well I I believe any non-marital relationship is just not worth it and the more u get into the depths of it the more chances u give yourself and your partner to get hurt. Trust me you are better off!!
Why spend your entire time thinking about your partner when you could spend that time with your parents, friends, pets (if any), watch TV, cook food , clean your cupboards or anything ! This world is not small and millions of things to do if we actually try to spend some quality time on other things apart from your “PARTNER”
Frankly speaking I don’t understand relationships. What good is a relationship if:
- You are afraid to talk because you might hurt your partner
- You are restricted in doing something because your partner does not approve of it
- You are scared to mouth of your views as for sure they will result in a quarrel and not some fruitful discussion
- You trust your partner and your partner does not trust you back
- You commit yourself to your partner and when things go a bit crazy your partner leaves you on the streets
- You are all the time compared to your partner’s past experiences. Your still not the standard! HA!
- You are not supported by your partner in anything
- Your partner believes in others and not you
- Your partner doesn’t believe in communicating with you.
I can go on and on and my list would not stop. If you call it love and that is why you do the above things well you are dumb then ! if you are in love it doesn’t mean you need to compromise on things and why should you? And even if you compromise because of “Love” then why is it just one-way. Why doesn’t your partner compromise. Why ? why does it get so hard for her/him to compromise and do things for their partners for once. Now you must be thinking that it could be two-way. I agree, it could be two-way, but my observation beholds that two-way compromise only happens in marriage and not in any other relationship. In a marriage two people commit themselves and become one person and not two. They are affected on the whole and are more together. They become the two legs of a body. If one leg is hurt the other one is there to support the body. They work together and hence such a relationship is only possible and is the best.
Don’t think I am against al kinds of relationships. Well, I think a mother/father daughter/son relationship is a beautiful one. At least they truly feel for you and truly believe in you. How many times has it happened that u have made something out of your own hands and cooked something and only your parents have been there to appreciate it even though it was the most pathetic thing ever. Now tell me something will your partners ever do this
7 comments:
well i agree tht relationships are difficult but i think key t have a sucessful relationship is to be honest with each other and at the same time have not ego issues. the minute we have ego issues and we start lying we face problems.. the reason relationshipw ith parents is easy cuz we have no ego problems with them and we are ourselve sin front of them no pretentiousness tht in my view is key to any sucessful relationship be it friendship or a romantic r/ship.
Well I am the sort who is scared of committments because i am scared of getting hurt. However, I still believe that ANY relationship is capable of hurting you. it depends on you as to how well you guard yourself.
As far as the relationship which seems to be the centre of this blog is concerened, I do agree that non-marital relationships are some what a waste of time because there is no legal or religious binding.
Having said that, if you are in a serious relationship and have a vision as to where its goin then GREAT. Hold on to it and work on it because you probably have something great at your hands. Talk to your partner and make him/her understand your point of view.
One last thing. If you are in some kind of a so called relationship and are betrayin ur parents 4 it, trust me its not worth it.
i m going to spread the blog finally something i have been advocating for so long in my friends, live a free life enjoy it, b'coz u''ll spend ur life with someone so whats the hurry sab ka number aega tension and desperation are to be kept a side and waisay bhi most of u ppl will admit most relationships r just out of desperation friendships are somethings u can rely on not on relationships a big NO to these time wasting relationships
@ sana there r no legal bindings but there r religious limits
@ saba : i think honesty is the best policy but not always the est solution to a problem.the truth hurts and lets face it we dont have the guts to go listen to it. your right about the egos and it is the egos which breaks most of us!
@sana : well said but communication is whats lacking in most of the relationships and sometimes too much communication also causes major problems..moderation is whats all about but in this time and world..whp follows it?? noone!!
@ahsan: all true and i agree with you completely !!
I agree with ahsan. everyone has to get hooked up eventually so whats with all the hurry? its better to wait for the right person then do get into something complicated and regret it later!
But once we do get into a relationship it definetly has to be a 2 way stream of give and take. And most of all it should be built stongly on the bases of trust. If trust is broken even once it becomes extremly hard to build it again! And lastly there has to be compromise and sacrifice.sometimes you have to let go of your happiness to make your other half happy. But then u should ensure he or she is doing the same!
I completely agree with whatever you said about this topic. Very well dont i must say! This article should be published in all teenage magazines.
Interestingš
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