so i am back

after a long period of break ..i am back and writing more with more and more thoughts for you all to comment...

i guess this is the only place where i find peace within myself...

what to write..how screwed up love is or how messed up u get in love or better yet do u actually survive after the lost love..do u start living normally again and breathing again ??





how can everything be normal after that...it has marred u for life...u wear clothes and ur reminded of it ..u eat ur favourite dish and ur reminded abt the time when u actually shared that dish with your loved one ...you go to a concert and u wish he or she was there with you...u listen to a song and some memories flood back ...are u not allowed to live normally !!!1 cant u breathe or you get afraid that he or she is some wher near brething with u and u cant reach him or her...

why does all of this have to happen....why cant two people in love actually live with eachother...why is it the more u go for something and the more u end up losing it ,,,

some hard and rough times...what to do ...life is like that and it will never stop its bitterness

love and ego!

The ego is very much involved in romantic love. Lack of self-worth may turn love into an unexpressed secret when there is fear of possible non-reciprocation. Loving another person can make us intensely sensitive to the regard with which we are held in the eyes of our beloved. When love is expressed but love (or respect) is not reciprocated -- or not reciprocated enough -- it is the ego that hurts. When the beloved forgets about us in plans & actions -- or is otherwise insensitive -- it is the ego that hurts. This is the awful truth that so often turns "love" into hate -- the extreme bitterness & vengefulness of love spurned. Even when love does not turn to hate, the sadness & hurt of the one whose love has not been returned is a suffering of the ego -- a wounding of pride. Those who most easily turn love into hate are those most at the mercy of their own ego.

love and hate relationships!

"Those low in self-esteem are chronically concerned about whether or not their close relationship partners will or will not accept them," Clark said. "In good times, those low in self-esteem tend to idealize partners, rendering those partners safe for approach and likely to reflect positively upon them. At the first sign of a partner not being perfect, however, they switch to focusing on all possible negatives about the partner so as to justify withdrawing from that partner and not risking vulnerability."

so true...we are afraid to get close to someone and yet we cannot afford to lose them..


we are afraid of getting hurt yet we are not afraid to give ourselves to someone.. why cant we think before we do something and give someone a chance to hurt us. Has this world made us so hard and so low in self-esteem that we are ready to jump into a situation which is most likely to hurt us !

what really happens in a relationsip!

by Knee Deep In Emotions

So long to fake words & artificial smiles; I still love you.We had the world in our hands, but you let it all go...-I'd give my life for you, I'd give my everything-The day you said goodbye I felt the world stop spinning;A constant pain in my head; A constant ache in my heartI dial your number just to hang up the phone...When you call I tell them to answer, say I'm not home,[I can't bear the image of you smiling on the other line][I want to capture your heart & make it mine again]They thought I would've given up by now- they're wrongTonight I listen to your voice through the receiver-And honestly it makes me want to cry; I close my eyes..I listen to your words & memories come rushing back,You tell me all the words my heart [long] to hear...I pray you're not telling me lies- then again-My heart will fall for just about anything these days.

is it not true??

is it not what we go through when we are in a relationship??

why all of a sudden our lives so restricted now !

think about it !!

love qoutes

I'm scared to fall in love, scared to fall fast, because every time I fall in love... it never seems to last.

I'm so sad when you're gone. Come back soon. Miss you!

In my dreams and in our love for 1 another there are no impossibilities.

Love is like quicksand - the deeper you fall in it the harder it is to get out.

You're just my cup of tea.

Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, sometimes it hurts.

Love is not something you feel. It's something you do.

Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was choice, but falling in love with you was completely out of my control.

My girlfriend told me, I should be more Affectionate, so i got two Girlfriends.

My heart is breaking since you went away

My love belongs to you.

My love is ever in your service.

One good thing about internet dating: you're guaranteed to click with whomever you meet.

relationships further explored

as previously talked about non marital relationships are not worth going for...

but staying in a relationship is one another task and also at the end of the day it is the best thing one can get\

now u must think i am contradicting my statement. but i am not!!

at the end of the day what is the best thing ..someone calling u up and asking abt ur day and enjoying that queens treatment one has,,,\

i finally think..it is after all worth it :)

Relationships!

Looks like we have either heard the word or gone through it or going through it or have forgotten about it or enjoying them.

Don’t worry this blog is not one of those “Aunt Agony” types where u publish ur issues and me being the so-called “Aunty“ helps you out . This blog is about what you feel truly about relationships.

I can help you out with one thing though and that is ..Please please don’t get involved in a relationship! Now u will find it funny when I say that …well I I believe any non-marital relationship is just not worth it and the more u get into the depths of it the more chances u give yourself and your partner to get hurt. Trust me you are better off!!

Why spend your entire time thinking about your partner when you could spend that time with your parents, friends, pets (if any), watch TV, cook food , clean your cupboards or anything ! This world is not small and millions of things to do if we actually try to spend some quality time on other things apart from your “PARTNER”

Frankly speaking I don’t understand relationships. What good is a relationship if:

• You are afraid to talk because you might hurt your partner



• You are restricted in doing something because your partner does not approve of it



• You are scared to mouth of your views as for sure they will result in a quarrel and not some fruitful discussion



• You trust your partner and your partner does not trust you back



• You commit yourself to your partner and when things go a bit crazy your partner leaves you on the streets



• You are all the time compared to your partner’s past experiences. Your still not the standard! HA!



• You are not supported by your partner in anything



• Your partner believes in others and not you



• Your partner doesn’t believe in communicating with you.
  
  
  

I can go on and on and my list would not stop. If you call it love and that is why you do the above things well you are dumb then ! if you are in love it doesn’t mean you need to compromise on things and why should you? And even if you compromise because of “Love” then why is it just one-way. Why doesn’t your partner compromise. Why ? why does it get so hard for her/him to compromise and do things for their partners for once. Now you must be thinking that it could be two-way. I agree, it could be two-way, but my observation beholds that two-way compromise only happens in marriage and not in any other relationship. In a marriage two people commit themselves and become one person and not two. They are affected on the whole and are more together. They become the two legs of a body. If one leg is hurt the other one is there to support the body. They work together and hence such a relationship is only possible and is the best.


Don’t think I am against al kinds of relationships. Well, I think a mother/father daughter/son relationship is a beautiful one. At least they truly feel for you and truly believe in you. How many times has it happened that u have made something out of your own hands and cooked something and only your parents have been there to appreciate it even though it was the most pathetic thing ever. Now tell me something will your partners ever do this